Is This Why You're Still Single?

In the middle of laundry day, I got a package from Fed Ex, it was a nice break from the routine. It was a beautiful gift basket with colognes, shaving gels, shaving creams, shampoos and tons of other wonderful stuff--I thought I had just won an Oscar--and not the Mayer kind..get it Oscar Mayer? Never mind. 

As I put the stuff away, I thought, "I'm going to take some of this over to Santiago's place since I'm there 6 out of 7 nights a week. We're officially boyfriends and exclusive (God, I sound like I'm 13) why not take over some of his counter space."

See, he asks me to stay over and in the morning, when we shower, he asks, "Grab some of my underwear, ok?" And he's got some great underwear, he's a fancy Mexican in that respect! All his stuff is CK, PUMA, 2xist, etc. Mine is K-Mart crap I've been using since Jr. High, but I digress. One thing is sharing underwear, another is sharing products. I wouldn't mind, but he's a boy gay--meaning he uses stuff that straight boys use--Zest soap, Colgate toothpaste, Head & Shoulders shampoo. I'm not a boy gay...and since I VLOG for the beauty industry, I get to review $80 shampoos, $65 shaving gels, $145 microdermabrasion creams--so my delicate Mexican body is used to GREATNESS, sorry Zest.

I decided to have some fun and took to twitter and asked, "When dating, when is it appropriate to take your stuff over?" I was amazed at the responses I got. For a second I thought I was seeing things. These responses frightened me. Not only did their responses reveal where they stood in relationships, but it revealed why they stood alone, in general. (get it--lonely, still single, alone?) Okay, I'll stop with the jokes.

Tweet 1: I never take anything over bc I tend 2 break things off suddenly when the mood hits so I don't want my stuff there when I do lol

Tweet 2: Don't do it--get up & go home. Let him miss U. Unless u just want him 2 end up taking U 4 granted.

Tweet 3: if I don't ask the girl to bring her stuff over then it would completely annoy me. Some people are very particular w/their homes!

Tweet 4: NEVER! Stage 7 Clinger!!!

Tweet 5: I've never dated before, so I can't say if I would take stuff over.

Tweet 6: NO! take nothing unless asked to & always keep ur socks on.

Tweet 7: Just make sure he's not using it--he's got his and you've got yours!

Tweet 8: Don't do it--what if you break up? then you have to carry it back to your place.

Tweet 9: Just make him buy you new stuff, he's a man, right?

Tweet 10: Relationships don't last--just take an overnight bag and play it safe.

At first I felt as they were throwing monkey poop all over my Mexican romance, but then I realized, we all have our issues when dating--they sneak up, creep up and attack, but really? Every couple is different, when you have mutual respect, honesty, and admiration for one another--and can see the big picture--trivial things like shampoo don't take up major time because you have other things to think about--like enjoying one another and building intimacy. 

I won't lie; those tweets scared me. But the beauty of finding someone you're compatible with is that counter space won't matter because the pay off is something greater--like waking up next to the person who makes you smile. Santiago and I are still brand new to all of this, but we're taking it one date at a time. 

So when is it the appropriate time to take your stuff over? The world may never know.

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