Your Reasons to Date

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What are the reasons you date?

1. Because you’re expected to.
2. To fall in love.
3. You’re bored.
3. You’re lonely.
4. To have sex & your hand/toys aren’t cutting it.
5. To share.
6. To feel validated.
7. Because someone “winked” at you on a dating site.
8. To have a child.
9. To obtain a partner and grow.
10. Because you’re ready.

Which one of these (if any–or all) is YOUR motivator to date?

What would happen if we were to throw all pre-existing ideas on dating away and started fresh?

How would you do things differently if only yesterday online dating sites were invented? Would you use them to really connect with someone or just click through photos without reading profiles as if you were on Fresh Direct looking for the freshest pork loin?

Would you still use that old photo of yours? Leave a comment and let’s discuss.

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3 thoughts on “Your Reasons to Date

  • December 13, 2010 at 3:16 pm

    If I put my bartending skills to work, I’d say:
    1 shot #5
    1 shot #9
    Splash in #2 & #8
    Serve in tall glass & float with #4

  • January 8, 2011 at 2:49 am

    I’d say 1, 2, second 3, 9, and 10.

    Then I began to evaluate what I wanted, especially after coming out, and 1, 3, 9, and 10, quickly fell to wayside. I held on to 2 for a long time, but then I realized that I didn’t want to fall in love as much as I wanted to love. Period.

    So I did away with a lot of my ideas of dating, and if I were to date right now, the first goal would to be friends. That would mean no sex (of any kind) and just hanging out, talking, and seeing if we can connect on a level that didn’t involve the physical right away or any time soon.

    However, finding someone with a similar mindset is a great challenge, so I prefer to bask and enjoy my singleness and not be desperate in my search. I mean, it’s not the end of the world if I remain single, as long as I can be a damn good friend. 🙂


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