Dating and Relationship Tips from Top Bloggers

Looking back at various stages in my life--whether dating or in a relationship--I reflect on the best and the worst times. Isn't it funny how clear things look now? One of the best quotes I've come across is still from Soren Kierkegaard:Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.I also apply that to my hair style decisions...but I digress. Reflection on past dates and relationships sparked a new blog post idea and when piecing it together I decided to tap into the minds of some of my favorite relationship/dating bloggers out there. In doing so, I wanted to give you all a taste of what they deliver (daily) on their blogs. So if you're looking for great dating and relationship tips, this is the post for you.#1 tip dating tips for single women and men + couples:(Side Note: Bad Bunnies photo used from this awesomely twisted and fun calendar found on CafePress. For order info visit Cafe Press)

Alisa Bowman is a professional writer who blogs about marriage at ProjectHappilyEverAfter.com. She also writes a sex column for SexIs magazine. http://www.edenfantasys.com/sexis/#1 Relationship TipFind yourself. Have you become a chameleon who has blended with your partner’s likes and needs so much that you no longer remember your true colors? Find yourself. Listen to your music. Discover your own hobbies. Hang out with your friends. Have the courage to be you. Your partner can’t love the real you unless your spouse knows who that you is.

Single City Guy is an NYC based single male who discusses the dating from the male point of view. Writing anonymously, he openly addresses many of the issues that affect both men and women, while sharing tales of his dating life. You can follow his blog on SingleCityGuy and on twitter at SingleCityGuy.#1 tip for single people/datingSingles and daters need to stop overanalyzing every small thing. We all do it on occasion but it doesn’t help us at all. The mistake often made when fretting whether a person’s actions mean they’re interested. I recommend giving a person to like us thru our actions, personality and individuality. People often over think, overanalyze, and over complicate the issue. You’re not a mind-reader and you may end up sabotaging yourself instead of enjoying the time with an attractive person; which is the point of dating.#1 tip for people in relationshipsDon’t be so eager to end a relationship. Some of the best relationships suffer thru the hardest of times. Relationships require a significant amount of energy, patience, understanding and honesty. There will be times when you will not be able to stand the sight of your partner; this doesn’t mean it’s the end of the relationship. It just means you’re going through a rough patch. Always remember, there will be more happy moments than unhappy ones. Only consider moving on when you have exhausted every resource, attempted to work through all of the tension, and resolve the conflicts that make the relationship unbearable.

LOST PLUM blogs brashly and bluntly about her everyday life (Lost Plum). She just happens to meet a lot of boys in her everyday life!#1 tip for single people/datingDating is Ridiculous! Once you realize that and stop taking dating/being single so seriously things start to just fall into your lap. Stop over thinking and just have fun!#1 tip for people in relationshipsLaugh and Dance It Out! The best part about relationships is that they are fun. So be creative, tell a joke, make a silly gesture, dance like a fool, and just laugh. Fun is better when shared.

Mike Masters writes a blog for women about relationships at MikeTheMasterDater.com. Traveling the world and dating every single he met along the way allowed Mike to make an uncountable number of mistakes in relationships. These mistakes led to a fluency in the psychology of dating that could only be gained from radical immersion.#1 tip for single people/dating Don't be a pussy! I recently had a beautifully strong girl text me, "You are a bit of an asshole and I don't like it" My response was, "What you think doesn't bother me." In the past I would have backed down and apologized for being an "asshole". Now, I hold my ground and refuse to apologize for who I am. Later we talked about that text and she laughed and said, "I am glad you didn't back down, I thought it was very sexy." Apologize to people you hurt, but never to people who are trying to test your boundaries.#1 tip for people in relationshipsRemain the Person you were. This has bit me as well as girls I have dated, I or the girl, changed. The best example I can think of was a gorgeous Brazilian girl named Marisa. She initially entranced me with her strength and shear sexiness. 6 months later I was with a weak girl that doted on my every movement. The girl I originally met was replaced with someone I would never have asked out. Why did this happen? I think, she was so fearful of losing me that she became weak in an effort to keep me. She fulfilled her fears.

Simone Grant is a blogger/writer from NYC. She blogs daily at Sex, Lies and Dating in the City.#1 tip for single people/datingHAVE FUN! If you're not having fun then you're doing it wrong (also known as the, "dump him if he doesn't make you laugh" rule).#1 tip for people in relationshipsI decline to answer this one on the grounds that I can't actually remember what it's like to be in a functional relationship. It's been a long-ass time.

And did you think I wouldn't put in my 2 cents worth? Reflecting on past relationships and dating episodes in order to only select two tips was difficult but here they are.#1 tip for single people/datingLaughter. If the two of you can make one another laugh—it’ll take you far--much further than the physical attraction that sometimes dies out quicker than a Tiger Woods affair.#1 tip for people in relationshipsListen to an honest friend. If your current relationship has you worn out, out of control and in a constant negative state--it might be time to re-examine that commitment to self before your commitment to another person. At times, it takes an extra pair of eyes to see things clearly.