3 Ways to Deal with Anger and Your Husband

You can take this advice and apply it to your spouse, friends, or colleagues. It will work in any situation but there is a level of wanting to work it through on your behalf in order for this to work. If you're looking for ways to play victim or point all fingers at them -- this is not for you. This is for real people seeking real solutions on dealing with your anger and your spouse/husband.

‍1. Have compassion and realize that they are probably kicking themselves for the exact same reason you're mad. It might not come as natural to remember certain likes or several of your dislikes. Or it might be that they are careless with money and are truly trying hard to budget. Realize that if there is an area they are struggling with, they may be afraid or insecure to ask for help since you slip into anger mode so easily.

Don't excuse their behavior but try a little compassion--it will go a long way. Besides, don't you want the same in return? You're not perfect. Ouch!

‍2. Take a step back and ask, is this really the issue? Many times we lash out in situations and we've been bubbling with anger or resentment for days, weeks, even years. Get to the bottom of things. Are the dishes in the sink really the issue or is it that you feel disrespected because you've explained how this is bothersome and you still encounter a cup and dirty spoon once or twice a month? Uncovering the root will help with resolution--but it takes some self examination and self awareness, you can do it. You'd want them to also do this instead of going all Tyra Banks on you for eating the last Nestle ice cream crunch bar.

‍3.Realize there is a price of admission in relationships. In the real world, there is no perfect person and there is no "settling down" without "settling for." Come to realize that you both have flaws and deal with them. Is he the sweetest, caring, and loving person who just happens to leave his shoes all over the apartment? Deal with it. Is he always there for you when you need someone and has your back no matter what, yet leaves dishes in the sink? Oh well. (Notice I've thrown in dishes in the sink twice? Sorry, babe) In the real world of relationships there is no fairy tale ending, just the one where two people put in work to make it another day. Some days are fun and amazing while others may be dreadful and full of yucky stuff. You just have to decide what's the price of admission in your relationship and the sooner you do, the faster you can get on with your fun times.