Gay BFF|July 14, 2009 5:13 pm

5 Myths About Gay Men

gay mythsOne of the wonderful things about living in New York City are the lively and juicy conversations with friends after a few tequila shots. Out with two straight female friends one night the topic switched to men and dating; imagine that. One friend did an about-face, “Nando, you have it so easy, you’re gay and all gay men want are hand jobs and head.” I was stunned. I was speechless. I was out of tequila!

I’m not sure if it was the alcohol talking, but where did she get her information? I couldn’t help but wonder, “What other gay myths were being spread about like Kirstie Alley’s thighs?” I came home and did some research, well, actually I came home and watched porn…then I did my research. I was horrified at what google offered me as search results; yet, simultaneously amused. (Maybe it was still the tequila?) This link about gays was particularly shocking. So I felt the need to expose some of the gay myths out there starting with these.

Top 5 Gay Myths:

Gay Myth # 1: Gay men will “come on” to any straight men around because we want to sleep with them. Listen, if you can’t even get a women to flirt with you…what makes you think I’m wasting my Crest White Strip smile and skinny jeans on you? You’re gonna have to keep blowing up your Stephanie Swift Blow Up Doll for your pleasure cause it’s just not gonna happen with us. (And learn that ear hair is not too sexy!)

Gay Myth # 2: He’s married; he can’t be gay. If I had a quarter for every “straight” married man who’s come on to me; I may have been able to produce my own BAILOUT solution for the country’s banking problem. Need I give you the ultimate creep example: Jim McGreevey and his gay-American self? Ladies, I hate to drop a major bomb on you, but if your man keeps scheduling “fishing trips” with his buddy Larry every other weekend but never brings home any trout–you might want to Netflix Brokeback Mountain or read How To Tell If Your Man is Gay. Just saying.

Gay Myth # 3: All gay men really want are hand-jobs. I know a throng of gay men who’d rather re-elect George W Bush as President than give a hand-job. I think hand-jobs were something we did in our teens during our sexual discovery phase–and we practiced with all the “straight” married men–they really enjoyed them. A hang job does nothing for me except give me hand-cramps. And having to look at you as you’re “being pleasured” while  I do all the work–it’s not called a hand-JOB for nothing; it’s just not our thing. Trust me.

Gay Myth # 4: He’s got bad hair and dresses badly, he must be gay. I admit that there are a few men out there who participate in the the holy and sacred act of man-on-man action who still don’t know how to coordinate their textures with appropriate color pallets and haven’t yet crossed over to hair wax–but to falsely accuse every man out there committing these senseless fashion crimes and hair don’ts as GAY is the worst myth of all and I won’t stand for it. I am from TEXAS, the South, a place where we embrace people (and shoot them riffles if they disagree) but we know the true meaning of respect and understand the delicate nature of not calling someone GAY without just cause. I’ve worked hard for my GAY status and I wear it like a crown: tall, glittery, and proud; don’t get it twisted!

Gay Myth # 5: We want to convert everyone. Listen, with my writing deadlines, hair appointments, facials visits and dental scans, I don’t have time to convert straight men into gay men. I barely have time to “brunch” with the ones who are already gay much less coordinate a gay-revolution. (And in case you haven’t heard–we’re born this way!) First off, where would we hold the “conversion” seminar and second, we’d have to this event catered and the Cake Boss has a 4-week advanced ordering policy. Oy, it would never happen!

So these top 5 gay stereotypes must stop here. Let’s Re-Launch Gay instead! I urge you to pass this post along to friends, family, colleagues and yes, even to Republicans–change has to start some day; why not today? (Plus, I need all the hits I can get!)

And don’t forget to check out my new eBook, Dating Stuff: The Things About Dating You Ought To Know available for download, now!

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  • I really enjoyed this one. Haha. Good job. It stems from people imagining that gay folk have excessive amounts of time on their hands. This should be made part of high school education.
    .-= Twanji Kalula´s last blog ..Exit Newspaper – February 2010 =-.

  • I absolutely love number 5. I am straight, but I have a gay son and a lesbian daughter. One of my so called “friends” recently told another friend that I would be happy if the whole world turned gay. So #5 hits close to home. My response, while I obviously carry the gay gene, if the world did turn gay…I would never get any penis…now why would I want that?

  • Love it! It really bugs me when straight guys think just coz a man is gay it means he wants HIM. Do you really think that much of yourself, dude? Geez, gay men have taste too, you know.

    But #4? I thought the stereotype was the opposite – that all gay men have fabulous style. Ooh, he’s got product in his hair and is wearing Prada… he must be gay.

    Gay peeps are as different as straight peeps – some fat, some thin, some horny, some frigid, some stylish, some sloppy, some smart, some stupid, some evil, some kind – we’re all HUMAN, folks! DERRR!
    .-= singlegirlie´s last blog ..Adventures in Thailand: The Gay Hooker =-.

    • I’m gonna have to give you the commenter of the month prize!! u rock.

      And yes, we gays are so very different–I’m from the Mexican, chubby & adopted group.

  • This is awesome. Don’t forget the one that gay men WANT to be friend with all women. I know gay men who can’t stand hanging out with women, hence why they might be gay to begin with.

    My sister wants to hang out with my GBF and I but my GBF can’t stand her, apparently she’s high maintenance and expects every man to flirt with her. But my gay friends don’t want to flirt with her (duh). Now I’m babbling when i should be working, but hopefully you get my drift.

    Oh and I agree with singlegirlie on #4, over here if you have any kind of taste you are gay first then metrosexual. lol

    ok back to work

    • you’re so right! I just had a conversation with a Gay who said, he wasn’t interested in being in a gayship! I was shocked.

  • Great job Nando! Funny as always but very insightful. And about the hand jobs?!? Who does that anymore? I don’t think many women even care for that. Thanks for the laughs 😉

    • Hahha! I’m not too sure who’s involved in spreading the “hand job” myth–it’s so 1970s, right?

  • I love these. I believe we all need to share our stories to help the world see there are many definitions to being gay. It is also important to make sure we help stop these myths for being seen as true.

    I love that gay people want to convert others. If it is really that easy to move someone over to being gay, wouldn’t they be able to move us over to being straight?

    • Wow, thanks for the comment. And I agree with you, if it were only that simple!
      I just clicked over and saw your book–finding your authentic true self–sounds like my type of book!
      Thanks for stopping by.

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