As an NLP Life/Success Coach I’m always on the look out for what my clients are truly saying to me and what’s behind what they say. It may come out like, “I can’t take that action because that’s not who I am,” but what they’re really saying it, “Fear is getting the best of me and I’m scared to take that action!” Or they might say, “I don’t have time to do my homework,” but what’s really behind their words are, “It’s out of my comfort zone to spend time on myself and homework is just all about me, I’m a mom, a dad, a wife, an employee so I’m always doing things for others.”
The most difficult thing to change is yourself. Even though many fail after the first week of trying, being hard-working and devoted to the things you want can help you tremendously. What’s more, evaluating yourself from time to time and writing down your goals and the things you want to achieve can play a big role as well. That is why, for anything that you strive for, you need to look at yourself as your next big project. And as any big project that you have, you need a master plan. This article deals with the best ways and ideas to make the journey to a better you as easy as possible.
The problem with hiring a life coach is that at first glance you might not know what to look for since each coach markets to unique aspects of life and problem-solving. Some are fitness coaches, dating coaches, lifestyle coaches and the list goes on and on — and having options is great because I believe that one size doesn’t fit all. If coaching is for you — and before you commit to it –you may want to ask yourself three vital questions:
On a recent clarity call — a potential life coaching client (PC) and I had the following exchange:
PC: I don’t care what you say, I won’t be doing any homework and I won’t be keeping a journal–that’s not for me! It doesn’t work.
Nando: Well, if you have all the answers, why don’t you have all the answers?
He signed up for coaching two days later and by our 4th coaching session — he discovered that he lives his life through a filter of “something’s missing” and it suddenly cleared up several messes he’d created in his life including his career and marriage. For him, in his marriage, “something was missing” so he was never truly happy with how his relationship occurs. After keeping a gratitude calendar for 3 weeks — he discovered that there was nothing missing in his marriage and he began to see what a beautiful relationship he had and how he was taking his wife for granted. He texted me a few days after his discovery and was excited that he and his wife were hugging and holding hands after years of NOTHING!
When you hire a life coach there are a few key things people look for: certification, experience, price, and the list goes on and on — but one key element you should never overlook is how well you get along. Having chemistry with your life coach is instrumental to achieving the goals you create and set in your coaching experience. Why? When your coach pushes back, and they will, you will want to know they are standing for you and your outcomes.