You are the designer of your own catastrophe — especially when it comes to love. You have reasons why you can’t find “the one” or you’re just too busy or ain’t nobody got time for dat! Those aren’t reasons, those are excuses.
When we use excuses to rationalize our failures, especially when dating, it really is a reflection of you and your flaws. And guess what? Everyone has flaws. You’re not alone. But here’s the difference, they are willing to still put themselves in a vulnerable place.
Can you say the same?
If you look around, no one is in a perfect relationship, they don’t exist. What does exist though? The possibility of finding and creating a relationship that brings joy, love, and vulnerability into your life. Yes, vulnerability. I know what you’re thinking, “But that makes me a target for getting hurt!” Guess what? You’re already hurting. You’re just doing it alone.
What thoughts are keeping you from truly finding joy when it comes to dating?
- He’s not moving fast enough? Who made you the pace keeper?
- She’s not the total package? Have you seen the wrapping paper you come in?
- I need someone who understands me 100%. Mind readers are at the circus find one, pay them $.25, and keep it moving.
Or are your designs more destructive because they highlight what’s wrong with you?
Have you been designing a
- 10-year sculpture of “I’m not good enough”
- An oil canvas of “I’m really not worthy” that’s almost done
- Maybe an intricate installment made of self-hate pieces with specs of shame
Would you be proud to display them? Because you already are. Check your last 10 Facebook status updates. They tell more about you than you ever thought.
If the current life design is not working in your life — start a new one.
Change mediums, change formats, throw away your old tools and start fresh–the old stuff (the past) is contaminated.
Identify + write down 5 of your best qualities and splash, stroke, weave, bend, glue, weld–start a new beautiful design you’re proud to have on display.
The universe and love is waiting with anticipation.