How To Accomplish Your Goals Without Motivation
Motivation is a tricky thing — so many of us have a love-hate relationship with motivation. It’s the thing that gets us to the gym, it keeps on our diets, and it also helps you be a better you. But what happens when it’s not there? What happens when you turn to a motivation speaker and NADA? Motivation speeches are good at the moment you’re listening or watching…but when they’re over? Motivation is gone…yeah, that fast!
Improve Your Relationship with Men, Money & Work
Letting go of emotional pain is hard — especially because some of us aren’t even aware that we are in pain–we’ve just gotten used to things being sad and miserable and we can’t see beyond that. In fact, any other way to live life isn’t in our future because we have become so comfortable with how things are and we truly believe that’s the way things must stay–for us, at least. But that’s just not reality. Why would your reality involve pain, being broke, and miserable? Why you?
No relationship is perfect — and I’m talking about the relationships with your family members, wife, husband, girlfriend, boyfriend, and everyone in between. We all have good and bad interactions with them but with certain people –bad behaviors have become the norm and no matter what you do or say — it doesn’t stop. And that’s because you might be a pushover in your relationship! Don’t be a pushover.
After so many years, we as a society, are finally opening up and talking about subjects that were once so taboo, you kept it a secret: whether it’s being inappropriately touched, sexually harassed, or dealing with depression. Whether you call it feeling down, being blue, or just being sad and depressed, it’s no longer the negative stigma it once used to be. Say it loud and proud, “I am dealing with depression and so what?”
Through the use of social media, people are being more vocal about being depressed and how they feel and are okay with sharing it more on such open platforms.
A few years ago I remember hearing about a guy who committed suicide and it was such a shock to his friends and family because he was known as “the happy guy” who was always posting positive things on social and I believe he even had a coaching business. Dealing with depression us wear masks that are so deeply buried inside that no one (even those close to us) find it hard to believe we were dealing with depression and struggling with it’s effects. Think Robin Williams and how he committed suicide because of his depression.
I was a bit surprised to see how many tweets float around from people dealing with depression, who’s age ranged from their early teens to late 60s. They were raising their hands (or tweets) saying that they too were in a horrid fight battling with depression. I used to be a part of that secret society that kept my depression on the down low for fear of what other’s would think of me, especially employers–but not anymore.
I mean, I worked in HR for goodness sake, no one wants to hire someone onto their HR team who’s openly talking about their depression. Right?
As someone who was a recruiter for over 10 years, I can tell you that people don’t realize what a bad impression they make when they reach out asking you for help. It’s not the idea of helping someone that leaves a bad taste in our mouths, it’s the idea of organizing their thoughts and figuring out the ask.
It’s like showing up at a bank and when it’s your turn at the teller, you just sit there, say nothing, and continuously blink at them hoping they will read your mind and fix your problem.
As with any ask — you must be organized, present the ask, and present the opportunity for me in the situation–otherwise why would I want to help a random stranger?
When you reach out to a recruiter, you can’t be coy, you can’t waste time, and you can’t come across as desperate. Instead, you want to follow these tips–but clearly understand why these tips will add value to your message.