What I think of How You Use Social Media – Get a Clue

Facebook nosey

Post By: Celinda

I get at least three new Facebook friend requests daily and it’s usually from someone I’ve never met but we share numerous “friends” in common. I used to accept all of them–after all, that’s what social is all about.  My social strategy on Facebook has been consistently the same for many years: Post cute kid pics and updates that I find hilarious of the crazy things that say and do.  This social channel is the only one that most of my family follows me on and I like it that way, which aligns to the reason why I talk about my twins. I’m not a parent that is super scared of the internet and have chronicled their lives since 2008.

I used to also post my professional accomplishments and brag about my team’s efforts but I  rarely do this anymore, as my wall tends to be filled with one person after an another talking about a client or a project they’re working on. I quickly realized that maybe we all don’t really care about the conference we’re speaking at or the project you championed internally that got three likes Facebook and retweeted twice.  Mostly, I noticed that my “friends” aren’t really friends but people I’ve collected that truly don’t know me but are busy creating opinions of me.

Because of the above, I’ve become super guarded and not the real me.  So much that when people meet me IRL, they expect to meet someone else.  At what point did I start curating my life so carefully that I started to give off a different vibe and that these so-called friends, started sharing their opinions with me.

There was that one HR professional that people pay to speak at conferences that called me a “loose woman” for standing by Planned Parenthood. Or that other vile recruiter that attacked me (and many others) for making a Glassdoor list.  Or the Branding professional, that decided while outing a “bully” she’d include me in the drama. And recently two executive level recruiting professionals who decided to attack me for standing with the #blacklivesmatter movement.

At what point do I say enough is enough?

For me that is today! I will no longer accept invitations on Facebook if we have never met in IRL. I will no longer tolerate hatred, negativity and socially inept people.  While we are connected and you likely have a different opinion than me, use your wall to share your viewpoints, don’t throw me in the mix. Trust that I am scrolling on by yours, shaking my head but with nothing to add, mainly because, I don’t know you and don’t care enough to debate your thoughts. Find a REAL friend, pick up the phone and rant but keep that shit off my wall.

Peace Out.

The Spark: Taylor Swift Kim Kardashian Feud, Transgender Dating, & The Republican Convention

This week Celinda and I dove straight into the Taylor Swift and Kim Kardashian scandal. It’s true, Kim lives her live according to likes, comments and views — but there’s something about how she rallies a crowd around her social presence that can’t be denied. And as socially savvy Taylor comes across, the way she handled the clap-back, if you can call it that–was pretty amateur.

Also on the show was the rare case of how Celinda was approached by someone transgender on Tinder. What was her response? You’ll be proud for sure!

The Spark Podcast brings you resident Psychic, Yolanda Shosana who gave us our 1st weekend reading and if you need a summary, the word for the weekend is YES! You want a personal reading from Shoshi? Click here, don’t delay!

Tune in to LIVE on Friday’s @ 10am or subscribe to us on iTunes here or listen below.

It’s not about Becky with the Good Hair

beyonce beyhiveBecky with the good hair came on everyone’s radar this past Saturday with speculations and fingers quickly pointed at Rachel Roy and by Monday a few more fingers were directed towards Rita Ora and I’m confident that in a few more days, other women will be identified as good-haired Becky. But one person that requires no speculation on in this entire affair is Jay-Z. If we are to believe that an entire album was created because of his infidelity, then why didn’t the BeyHive go after him, was it because if it were not for him, we wouldn’t have Lemonade quenching our thirst?  The angle of focus is all wrong, we have zeroed in on the wrong person, the wrong act, and the wrong message. It’s not about infidelity, but what you decide do with the relationship after it occurs.

Everyone must do what’s right for their own sake and their own relationship, I stand strongly on that platform and would not judge someone on what they decide to do with their bond should one of the parties knowingly break it. I had been in a relationship for two years when I walked in on him having sex with another person in our apartment. I couldn’t understand, I couldn’t focus, I couldn’t process what was going on as I saw my then boyfriend nude trying to cover up and the other guy jumping up out of bed grabbing and reaching around for his pants that were lying on the same carpet that I had vacuumed one day before. I was out of breathe and I heard one of them say, call 9-11. It got that bad. But I snapped out of it when I saw the guy flash before me running out of the apartment while turning to me to say, “Please don’t tell my boyfriend,” as he slammed the door shut. Did I forget to mention, the guy in my boyfriend’s bed was part of a couple we knew and went on vacations with a few weeks before?

For me there was no column A or column B decision to be made, I packed as many of my things as I possibly could and walked out. I left the apartment, I left the relationship and I left the lie I was living at the time. Since then, several years have passed and I’m married now, to a man that personifies generosity, kindness and hope. The fact that he has these qualities breathes new meaning and value into my life. We’ve been together for six years and I can’t see my life without him. I see us continuing to experience new things together, quarreling over who’s doing the dishes this weekend and looking forward to growing old together. This relationship has been hard. It’s been tested. It’s been both beautiful and rough—and we have some tough times ahead of us, but I’ve had to take the meaning of what a relationship once meant to me “people cheat,” “people can’t be trusted,” “you will get your heart broken,” and grow out of those ideas because I chose love. 

Beyoncé chose love. She just chose love with the same man who crushed her heart into tiny little pieces, the same someone the BeyHive has decided to leave alone and maybe they should since his own wife chose the path of forgiveness. It’s a move that says, “Okay, let’s get back on track.” They’ve built an empire together. They have a child together. They have history. It’s Beyoncé and Jay-Z, but they are also human and have feelings. I sometimes think we only see celebrities as walking stars with no real issues — but if Lemonade tells us anything, it’s that she goes through the same things we all go through wether it’s cutting his face out of pictures as well as scratching his face out—except she gets to do it in Givenchy. It’s only now we begin to understand why Solange went cray-cray in the elevator. We all need a Solange in our lives. I’m lucky that I had four in mine and I ran to them in my time of heartbreak. 

Beyoncé is staying. It’s not because of money, it’s not because of status and it’s not because of any other reason but that she chose the option to love, for now. We should respect that and see that as a thing of hope. I had to leave that relationship because there was no winning for us. Now that I’m married, I’m not sure what I’d do if my husband were to cheat on me. I hope to never find out. We have history together and respect one another enough that when the world gives us sour grapes, we will juice them. In Beyoncé’s case, while turning lemons to lemonade, she also turned grief into hope and heartache into love. And as far Becky is concerned (whomever she may be), let’s leave her alone, she’s too busy getting her hair did

Beauty Product Review: Smooth A+ Correcting Serum (GIVEAWAY)

Smooth A+ correcting serum

Extractions, exfoliation and facials are all part of my regimen and when I find a product(s) that delivers on its promise (and especially the ones that don’t) I want to share it with you all.

So when the owner of Mission B contacted me asking if I’d like to sample and review (I received no compensation for this) one of the products on the website, I jumped at the chance and chose a product by Blissoma Solutions called Smooth A+ Correcting Serum because as of late, my skin has declared war and has been revealing red blotches in certain areas on my face and truthfully, it was throwing my selfie game off.

Smooth A+ has 13 whole herb extracts to provide pro-active protection to acneic and troubled skin. The serum is like a smoothie (DO NOT EAT) made of rose oil, carrots juice, and niacinamide targets blemishes and inflammation while balancing. It intensively regenerates skin using collagen synthesizing flavonoids and beta-carotene.

I received the product and quickly put it to work. The label declared the serum was for oily, acne, irritated and discolored skin and because my Benedict Arnold-like skin checked off three of those boxes, I knew I had made the right choice

Week one passed but I saw no difference. I still looked like I was auditioning to replace the Target logo. Week two consisted of me running to the mirror every morning yet it left me disappointed with a broken spirit. Now I know how Jennifer Lopez felt when she learned her boy toy Casper Smart was caught at a popular seedy gay establishment but he was only “asking for change for a $20.00.”

At this point I contacted the owner of Mission B and in disappointment I told her I was following the directions on the box but I wasn’t seeing any improvements; I wanted Mario Lopez skin! “Because the brand doesn’t use harsh chemicals and relies on botanicals for its properties to work, it might take a little longer for results,” she explained. She rooted me on and so I kept using it but had lost a little hope.

By week three my red blotchy skin was a thing of the past. I noticed my skin was all one tone and it just looked healthier. I mean, it’s not a miracle serum taking away ten years of face abuse (drinking little to no water, no SPF, and nothing to hydrate it) but it restored my tone and my face appeared super hydrated. My husband began using it (against my will as I’m a greedy little monkey when it comes to beauty products) and his skin type is oily and he began seeing results only after 2 weeks. His skin didn’t shine as much in the T-Zone.

I recommend this product as I saw results from it but because I saw results a little slower than my husband, I’d say stick with it if the changes aren’t happening over night or as immediately as I was explained–it’s driven by botanicals and not harsh chemicals. And for those of you wondering — my selfie game is back on fleek!

THIS IS WHERE I GET TO BE OPRAH FOR A WEEK. One of my readers will get 1 bottle of Smooth A+  Correcting Serum for free by going over to Mission B’s instagram and following them then posting and tagging us both (@nandoism + @missionb.io) on a photo or video stating why you need Smooth A+ in your life!

Contest Rules:

  • Must have instagram account with over 300 followers
  • Must follow both @nandoism + @missionb.io on instagram
  • Must tag both accounts on a photo or video on instagram stating why you need Smooth A+ in your life.
  • Must come back and comment on this post once you have done the above
  • Contest starts: Monday April 11th and ends Sunday April 17th.
  • Winner announced Monday April 18th.

You can order your Smooth A+ serum visit Mission B here.

 

Son “Comes Out” to his Father at McDonald’s

Son “Comes Out” to his Father at McDonald’s

I’m impressed this made it though the approval process when it comes to pitching ideas for global brands and their next big commercial. This one packs a punch.

We see a guy with his dad at a McDonald’s drinking coffee. The son wrote, “I like boys” on his cup and his dad abruptly walked off with his McCafe cup. We’re left watching the son sitting alone in total sadness. But then his father returns with his McCafe cup (possibly refilled) and writes over his son’s admission, “I accept that you like boys” and we sigh a huge sigh of relief.

Yes, this is a huge step and maybe the next ad can be the dad taking his son and the boy he likes to McDonald’s as opposed to another version of this commercial. Watching the ad makes people think like’s still something wrong for linking the same gender, even if it’s for a small brief moment. Straight people never have to come out. There isn’t a time in a straight boy’s life where he has to sit with his loved-ones and contemplate explaining that he’s into girls/women. Sexual orientation is such a small fragment of who we are and when I look back at my “coming out” I think — why was it anyone’s business?

Kudos for McDonald’s for taking this leap…let’s see them take two more!

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