As someone who was a recruiter for over 10 years, I can tell you that people don’t realize what a bad impression they make when they reach out asking you for help. It’s not the idea of helping someone that leaves a bad taste in our mouths, it’s the idea of organizing their thoughts and figuring out the ask.
It’s like showing up at a bank and when it’s your turn at the teller, you just sit there, say nothing, and continuously blink at them hoping they will read your mind and fix your problem.
As with any ask — you must be organized, present the ask, and present the opportunity for me in the situation–otherwise why would I want to help a random stranger?
When you reach out to a recruiter, you can’t be coy, you can’t waste time, and you can’t come across as desperate. Instead, you want to follow these tips–but clearly understand why these tips will add value to your message.
It’s okay to reach out and ask for help, but you must do it on a way where it becomes an opportunity for the recruiter.