Date Slow: Taking Your Time When Dating

Today, we celebrate fast: fast food, fast internet, fast times. Does this mean we have lost the appreciation of slow? Slow seems to be an art form we no longer care for. Sure we can quickly update a status through a phone in under 1 minute or retweet someone in less than 30 seconds, but what happened to slow? Slow is good. Slow is undervalued. There are certain things that can’t be celebrated under the umbrella of fast + speedy, like dating and relationships.

When you date someone, learn to relax, this comes with time. When you date someone, actively listen. Slow down and ask questions, have a nice and steady pace when telling your story. Need to kill some time instead of rushing into a text battle? Make some detox water and let the act sooth you. All these things lead up to a huge reveal that can’t be rushed when time is on your side, if you let it.

Slow down and get to know someone when they’re having a bad day, when they experience joy + excitement. Slow down to understand why what you just said, hurt their feelings.

Give yourself and the relationship the respect is deserves by slowing down to realize that the argument you just started, wasn’t necessary. When we come from “quickness” + “hurry it up” we miss several cues and clues about the other person and ourselves. Wondering what you’ve already missed in the hustle and bustle of your life?

Idea: Stop sabotaging your dates/relationships because you want to fast-forward to the good parts….something beautiful can’t be rushed.

There’s a reason why the turtle won the race against the rabbit, it wasn’t just because he was slow and steady, but because he realized he was on a journey that required him to be present. What are you missing right now because you’re in a rush to get in and get out? Pace yourself and have a taste of slow.

Is your relationship ready for the next level — slowing it down? Leave a comment and let’s discuss.


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4 thoughts on “Date Slow: Taking Your Time When Dating

  • July 10, 2012 at 2:12 pm

    I’ve come to learn this about myself lately… I’m so busy busy busy doing things to keep myself busy that I don’t make time to date. Living in New York City makes it challenging to actually date it seems. People just aren’t as willing to invest the time because they can get on an app and find someone better. Someone with a bigger brain, a bigger apartment, a bigger …. well you get the point. I’d love to take my time, but I just don’t have any… TIME!

  • July 10, 2012 at 6:21 pm

    Nando!!! I LOVED this and just what I needed to read today 🙂

    Love your thoughts and perspective on certain dating topics. Being back in the “dating” world seems like a daunting task, but the right one for everyone is out there…just need to take our time and let the good stuff come.

    Hope you are fab!!!

  • September 15, 2012 at 3:22 am

    Agree! A lot of people nowadays should learn how to take things slow and enjoy the moment.

    • November 7, 2012 at 11:52 am

      Thanks for the comment, yes, slow it down. PUMP THE BREAKS!


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