Where are the car keys? Who knows. Where did I leave my wallet? No idea. Where’s that hot steamy memory of that one-night stand I had with the double-jointed Brazilian I had five years ago. Oh yeah, right here! Isn’t the brain fun?
According to science, the brain stores information based on association. There are two types of memory banks we access; short term and long term. They both involve three major processes: encoding, storage and retrieval and with the help of neurons, it all just happens magically–like the new skin that forms on Joan River’s forehead.
A short term memory is when a friend yells out their cell number and you quickly pull your phone to store it. Wait, was that a 3 or a 6? Since you instantly have their voice in your head, you tap into your short memory bank and recall the numbers but after it’s stored, you have no use for the digits, so your brain automatically empties out that compartment in your brain–where it was briefly kept–and allows you to make room for something else; like remembering why people like Miley Cyrus. But long term memory is a memory that’s stored for the long haul and you can recall at command; like remembering the prayer for the Our Father or singing a Ke$ha song–which I’ve been told they both can create a spiritual experience.
But how does the brain remember an affair? What happens when you catch your significant other cheating? (Click here to find out why people cheat) We know the dirty routine: they cry, they promise never to do it again, and then they take you out to Red Lobster for some cheese biscuits; romance, ain’t love grand? But all those nights of sneaking out and meeting up with the other person, do those memories just fade into the night–like Nick Cannon’s career? There was risk in the the affair, there was a sense of the forbidden, there were edible panties involved. When the anger towards your partner finally subsides and you allow yourself to experience their sexual touch again–are they really thinking of you? Just because society tells us that having affairs are wrong, in our head, we get to do and think whatever we want, just as Perez Hilton!
So if you forgive a cheater, by the way–should you?, (Listen to what they had to say about forgiving a cheater) do their cheating thoughts ever get wiped away? Can you ever really be sure they aren’t sneaking off into the bathroom to masterbate to a memory? What if they’ve trained their heads to say your name but picture their face instead? We can defragment a computer and we can erase a white board, but when it comes to infidelity, I can’t help but wonder, “Is it an affair to remember?”
What do you think? Does a cheater forget? Leave a comment.
Ha! the worst part when my ex cheated on me was what was in his head as “latin girl’s revenge”. Which according to every book, movie, and horror story he heard was pretty painful, we gotta thank Lorena Bobbit for that one.
The best thing I did was remain calm in the last final days of me moving out shortly after that. He couldn’t sleep at night and was afraid to come home. I was never gonna go postal but I did gather the information of friends and family and his new girlfriend to post photos and send emails out. Revenge is better silent I think, lol
Horray for latin girls
oooh, I would be scared too! Latin revenge is a scary thing. The ex who cheated on me also was scared of where his NUDE photos might end up–but just like in your case, his fear was far better than anything I could have ever done!
I’m a bad, bad girl Nando…I’ve been the cheater. I can honestly say, however, that I forgot the affair and it meant nothing. Now, after so much time has passed, I don’t like replaying that time, because it simply wasn’t worth it and I truly am regretful. I do think,though, that there are definitely other people out there who are the epitome of “once a cheater, always a cheater.” I’ve certainly dated a handful of them.
Thanks for your honesty…I know it takes a lot to share. I think you’re strong for doing so sister!
The best way to make sure your boyfriend never cheats on you again is simple. Proceed as follows.
1. Early in the morning, get yourself all fresh and dolled up. Head to the kitchen to make your hubby the most organic breakfast of his life. The main ingredient is made of wood and is best harvested early in the morning. You can’t miss it; just go back into the bedroom to see it has turned your sheets into a tent.
2. Grab the stick and make a sharp circular cut right below its base. Now, get ice cubes out of the freezer, throw them into the blender, along with the two balls you’ve freshly cut. Mix the whole thing for 3 minutes and serve fresh.
I believe that’s called cock-o-nuts juice – the bloodiest way to domesticate a man.
Thank you.
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Some one’s got some anger issues and I love it!
And P.S. what type of blender do you have…I’m assuming industrial power?
The anger issues melted away when Carrie beat the hell out of Mr. Big with the big bouquet of flowers, in the first installment of Sex and the City’s franchise. Industrial power, indeed.
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child, there we go–all about Sex and the City! raunchy, sexy fairy tales!
Tips _ step by step on how to keep your boyfriend from cheating on your.
1. Don’t give him a 2nd chance.
that’s it, so clear, now time to find a real man who can appreciate you! LOL
girl, u understand life. I like you.
Funny stuff, nando! I can totally relate since I’m like most men: I only remember what I want to remember. It probably stems from our male libido where the physical part of a relationship or an intimate encounter is more exciting for us to recall than the mushy stuff like anniversaries and dinner dates. Women get all emotional with every speck of memory they have, regardless of how well hung their ex is. Or maybe I’m wrong. Anyway, we do have the ability to separate physical attraction from emotional attraction, which explains why PORN still sells. So next time you lovingly kiss your beloved girlfriend before you wack off to a sexual memory of your ex, remember to never confuse one with other. Or else, your girl will give you a memory you won’t soon forget! Just read Buddahkitty’s comment!
I agree with Buddahkitty, I will definitely leave my partner If I caught him cheating. It do not care if he had forgotten about the affair because definitely, I won’t. Besides, I love myself too much to stick to that kind of guy.