Are You Dating a Cancer?

zodiac_cancerI was born June 30th, which makes me a Cancer in the astrological arena. Cancers are the fourth sign of the Zodiac and are known to be loyal, sensitive, emotional, and we’re represented by a crab because its name is derived from the Latin “cancer…which literally means “the crab.” There have been several famous Cancerians like Ernest Hemingway, Kevin Bacon, and Bozo the Clown. How sexy is that? And throughout my dating resume, I’ve dated almost all of the signs–had toxic relationships with Capricorns, confusing love affairs with Taurus’ and I won’t even describe what happened with the Aries–except that I’m glad my therapist took payment plans. But as I’ve grown older and wiser, I know that relationship are as individual as the individuals in them and you can’t allow silly zodiac signs to dictate your dating experience–or so I thought, until I met Santiago, my current boyfriend who just happened to also be a Cancer.

We’re  each other’s first–Cancers that is. I admit I was a bit excited to know that two loyal and sensitive Mexican crabs had found themselves in Brooklyn. Isn’t that a making for a Disney fairytale? Anyone have a direct line to their story hotline? But once the PEA wore off, you know, the date hormone we pump out during the first 3 months of dating that makes us experience butterflies when we see one another–the real Cancers in us came out. Just this morning, we had the following exchange on the Q train.

Nando: Why are you looking at me?

Santiago: Because you’re so handsome.

Nando: Really?

Santiago: Well, that and the fact that you have two nose-hairs entwined that are making this curly shape underneath your nose.

Nando: Oh My God! Why are you ruining my life?

Santiago: What?

Nando: Just be quiet and pretend it’s not there…No! Don’t get quiet! Talk! If you’re quiet people are gonna KNOW and look over here.

As casually reached for the unruly hairs protruding from my nostrils an overwhelming sense of frustration entered my entire body–I guess thats how Ke$ha feels when she reads her YouTube comments, but I digress. As I continued to reach and pluck, Santiago just stared at me as if I was one of those gorillas on America’s Funniest Home Videos caught on tape while exercising his beauty regimen. Defeated, I gave up and figured if anyone was that close to see my defect, they deserved to see it.

Santiago: You know, they’re still there.

Nando: Shut up and don’t talk to me.

Santiago: Oh great, this is the back hair incident all over again!

Nando: You’re never supposed to bring that up! Does it make you happy to continuously stick daggers in my heart? You can just forget about me buying freezer & storage bags tonight!

Santiago: But my cookie dough.

Nando: Well, you should have thought about that before…by the way, how does it feel? You know, to ruin another’s life?

Santiago: I don’t know, I’ll let you know when my cough dough is destroyed.

As I exited the train, I turned around to see an angry Santiago which I realized, made me happy. As I walked home, I knew my mutant hairy body wan’t anyone’s fault–well, maybe my biological mother and father’s–but that’s a family tree I’ll never see. Santiago pissed me off and I pissed him off and in the end, it really got us nowhere; two hyper-sensitive Mexican crabs dating in Brooklyn was a challenge we both knew we were taking on–we just didn’t know nose-hairs and freezer bags would be the cost. Cancers are ultra-sensitive, we take things personal–extremely personal and we get hurt when people tell us about our nose hairs, or unsalted pico de gallo (click to see my video) or complain about the expired milk we poured into their coffee. What can we do, our temperament is written in the stars. In the meantime, I apologized to Santiago through text–don’t judge…and got him storage bags. I also picked up an extra pair of tweezers to carry around with me. Ah, ain’t Cancer-love grand?

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16 thoughts on “Are You Dating a Cancer?

  • June 7, 2010 at 11:55 am
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    Why am I not surprised? My boyfriend is a cancer as well. You hit the nail on the head.

    And in addition to that, how special does it make me feel that we just simultaneously commented on each other’s blogs. Aaaaaaaaaaw (with balloons and ridiculous dancing puppies).

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    • June 7, 2010 at 11:57 am
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      No way! Really? Oh, watch out sister! We can get hairy…and not like in MY kind of hairy!

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      • June 7, 2010 at 8:56 pm
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        I think it is too late to go back. Well AT LEAST I am a Libra (now, when I was dating married to a Libra it was a like a combo of Seinfeld and Alfred Hitchcock. But it is too funny that there is Cancer temperament involved into our plot similarities.

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        • June 7, 2010 at 9:35 pm
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          Argh my HTML witticism went down the toilet. Note to self: simplicity is key.

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          • June 8, 2010 at 12:57 pm
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            simplicity–child, I learned that while making onion rings!

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  • June 7, 2010 at 2:49 pm
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    Okay well we all know as a woman of science I’m not so much into astrology…but that conversation between you and santiago might just be the cutest thing I’ve ever read. Can you keep a secret? promise not to tell anyone? I mean really really hush hush? There are these moments…little tiny moments that sneak up during dating lulls and that scramble when friday night plans fall through…and when I read this conversation on your blog…that I consider…just a smidge…just for a moment…that I might one day want a relationship…ack!…but don’t tell anyone 😛 Seriously though…cutest everyday convo ever!!!
    .-= SomethingSheDated´s last blog ..Dear Boys, It’s Time To Get Balls Out =-.

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    • June 8, 2010 at 12:55 pm
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      ah…as they say, be careful what you wish for cause it might not have a return policy after 30 days!

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  • June 7, 2010 at 4:16 pm
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    Nando!

    Its RogerDanny; this is too funny.
    My boyfriend [Ramone] and I are
    Both cancers and this sounds
    Pretty familiar (x
    .-= RogerDanny´s last blog ..Your love is an Ocean =-.

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    • June 8, 2010 at 12:53 pm
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      oh wow! And the Cancers come out! Similar interactions, hu? lovely.

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  • June 7, 2010 at 8:49 pm
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    cancers are actually supposed to be great with other cancers, pisces, and scorpios. those are your best matches. yes we are overly sensitive, and we’re also incredibly moody, but we’re considered to be the most caring of the signs, so I’d say you got a great match.

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    • June 8, 2010 at 12:56 pm
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      I think you’re right. Because despite it all–we are doing good. But it is our first Cancer experience. I don’t even think I have friends that are Cancers–except you!

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  • June 7, 2010 at 8:54 pm
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    Not dating a Cancer, but recently had a cancerian FWB. He too is very sensitive, whilst I’m like a rhino charging through, never realising I may have said or done something that may have upset or hurt him. (I’m not sure if it’s a Pisces trait or not)
    But his issue is that he’s afraid to speak up, won’t say a word even when someone really pisses him off.
    Sensitive & silent…I Worry about the day when he explodes – ticking time bomb scenario!
    .-= Violet´s last blog ..I Taught Myself A New Trick =-.

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    • June 8, 2010 at 12:54 pm
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      tick. tick. tick. that’s how we roll. Santiago lashed out at me once after I yelled at him–and it hurt my feelings really bad–and it was the 1st time in history that he did it. oy! but it was building in him.

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  • February 24, 2011 at 7:49 am
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    This hit home with me! I just passed the 3 month mark with my Cancer. I can NOT get used to how sensitive he is. I’m a capricorn and it’s such a challenging relationship, which is weird because my BFF is a cancer too and I haven’t had nearly this same issues with her.

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