Internet dating, I quit you.
A friend recommended that I start to read Marna Bunger’s blog and I’ve been addicted ever since. I even reached out to her and she agreed to guest blog every once in a while here on nandoism.com. And well, here’s here 1st guest post. I dare you not to laugh out loud!
That’s it. Done dating.
I made a New Year’s resolution to stop internet dating. Why? I’ve
been to the end of the internet and back and I’ve entered the zone of
diminishing returns.
My internet dating career began almost 15 years ago after my divorce
and subsequent rebound relationship. I started in AOL chat rooms.
(Don’t judge, that’s what horny people did in the olden days.) I
eventually graduated to online sites. Nerve, Match, Craig’s List,
eHarmony, OkCupid, PlentyOfFish, Salon – I’ve dabbled with all of them
and had hundreds of dates and a few mid-term relationships.
When I’d burn out, I’d go retro and meet men in bars or do the friends-
of-friends route. Those avenues usually yielded a good alcoholic or a
stoner. That’s when I’d bounce back into the arms of internet dating.
There are times when I want to scream that great quote from Charlotte
in Sex and the City, “I’ve been dating since I was fifteen. I’m
exhausted. Where is he?”
Internet dating, I quit you. In 2010, I’m just going to live my life
and see what happens. I have a dog for companionship an a vibrator for sanity. If there’s a single, emotionally evolved male out there for me, maybe chance will bring us together instead of a wireless router.
Marna Bunger is a tragically single, heterosexual writer and marketing
consultant living in West Hollywood, the epicenter of gay in southern
California. She’s the creative force behind dontmincewords.com.
Fun post! I could hear Charlotte screaming!
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Marna is amazingly funny! Go check her blog out.
LOL, Money quote: “I have a dog for companionship an a vibrator for sanity.”
Oddly enough, I found my husband (of 10 years) via an internet dating site. Turned out we lived several blocks away from each other.
This is good news for me–thank God for grindr!
Love! But writing as an internet dater, I can’t quit it! Boo! Who knows, maybe I’ll meet mister right on my way to pick up my birth control pills at Planned Parenthood today. ha!
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child, I don’t think I have a response for you!
you are overboard! Blanche, is that you? hehehe
Now, that’s a resolution!!
I did it for 6 months–quit dating COLD turkey,
then my waddle broke! Child!
‘net dating! Ah how I love and hate thee…. you gave me three very close friends (see some failed dating attempts are not complete wastes of time when you ditch the loving for the friendship) but you snatched away so many nights that would have been better spent with the men of Falcon methinks… after meeting so many maladjusted, serial killer wannabes, I ended up meeting my current, and much loved boyfriend via…. a friend! I have to laugh…. all that effort and ye olde antiquated non-’net ways won out…..
@Andrew- Isn’t Marna wonderful?
I pretty sure I can bribe her into more guest blog posts for me.
What’dya think? And yes, ah, those men of Falcon. Oy!
That is also how I feel. In this bad economy I believe finding a job is a lot like finding a partner: The minute you stop looking is the minute one will find you. I’m tired of having my feelings hurt on both accounts and I have never felt more at ease with this way of thinking.
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@Nina–wow, what a great comparison and you’re so right!
I’m old and I’ve been in a relationship long before any kind of internet dating was available. My how times have changed from bars and other more seedy places. Nina has a point though, internet or not, when you stop looking and stop the desperation, that is when HE pops up into your life. That is exactly what happened to me.
@Mike-consider yourself lucky–you skipped all the internet hassle!
I just love that you stop by and pull up a chair and comment.
You make my day!
Mike and Nina – right on. I was laid off an August and the similarities between looking for love and looking for a job are endless (e.g. years of experience
).
I’m sure I’ll be back on the sauce at some point, but I’m focusing on my career and me and the rest will follow… when I’m not looking.
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Ahhh… Always best to stop looking. Or try dating loop holes, like moving in with some guy as a “roommate” while on the rebound and not even thinking about romance. This helps if you want to skip the “will he call?” stage, not to mention the “should we move in together?” phase. Warning- this may lead to marriage….
Fab post ! and ironically had just come across Marna’s blog last night through a link of a link or something like that !
I suppose I’ve only recently started online dating .. not thoroughly active on it though .. I met this man in ‘05 on Hi5 (not that its a dating site) and we ended up together for 1.5 years until he absolutely crushed me by telling me we couldn’t be together.
Last summer, after much pressure, I got onto a marriage site (Indian girl, 28 yrs single – basically expired goods!) and went on 2 ‘dates’ … all the good looking men live too far away from me
Recently got on OkCupid to help Simone out in picking some guys – and now have been bombarded by some creeps in my area .. again all the eye candy live far far away .. *Sigh*
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@DazeDiva–you will have no problem, because you are amazing! trust me.